What to do with a coworker who says things you don't want to hear?

When you work at a company, you meet a lot of different people. But there's one person in particular that everyone seems to dislike: someone who speaks aggressively or negatively about your opinions. Their personality is so aggressive that you can't help but wonder if they actually think you're the enemy.

Naturally, you don't want to talk to this type of person and try to avoid them as much as possible. However, these people are often better for your career than having yes men around. If you think about it, they're a good stimulus, just like the concept of red team blue team in management theory.

Enemies can be stimulating and teachable, but they can also be truthful with their own solid logic, or they can try to take away what you've accomplished. If you use them to your advantage, you can really grow faster than anyone else. Think back to high school and how you used to try harder because you thought you were a rival.

If you only keep good people around you, you won't grow as fast as you think you will. This is because good is good, and we rarely stimulate each other. If you think you have an enemy, it's better to get closer and fight him rather than try to avoid him. I need to know that I can learn and grow from them.

With rapid growth comes pain. If you meet someone who causes you pain, try to confront them instead of avoiding them. You'll feel a certain amount of stress, but you'll also build quite a bit of inner strength.