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Characteristics of people who don't reach out How often should you reach out to keep in touch to maintain a good relationship? Maintaining a good relationship with people is a lot of work, even if it's not strictly for networking purposes. Most people don't reach out to friends and coworkers unless something special happens. However, this is a very bad habit. It gives others the impression that you're only available when you need them. And yet, most people make this mistake over and over again. Successful people are excellent communicators and genuinely love to interact with people. However, there are definitely people who are not great communicators, and what should they do? For them, here are three tips on how to use less energy and maintain good relationships with people. First, be curious One of the reasons we don't take the time to say hello to others is because we're not curious about their lives. Even if we are, we don't feel the need to say hello bec

When you receive a gift or a favor from someone, you're probably going to say thank you. Some people say "thank you" very awkwardly, while others say it in a way that makes the giver think they did a good job. Do you know what the difference is? You might think of ways to show your appreciation by saying "thank you" and sending a little gift icon, but personally, the best feeling I've ever had when helping someone is when they add a word to their "thank you." That one word is a short appreciation for a gift that is, in some ways, not much. What's behind the word "thank you" is reciprocation. If you've ever given a gift to someone, you remember wanting to hear how they liked it. The same goes for the other person. They want to hear what you've been thinking about it since you received it. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. For example, if you're on a trip and a friend brings you a snack, you could tell them what you

There are times in life when you're betrayed. I've been in relationships where I thought I trusted the other person and had a really good relationship with them, but even in those relationships, I've been betrayed. The feelings of betrayal are naturally complex and nuanced. But this flow of emotions, starting with what I did wrong and ending with the other person's anger, is kind of eating away at me. It's natural to feel sad and angry because you've been hurt, and it's natural to feel resentful and hateful toward the person who betrayed you. But not everyone feels the same way, so it's only natural to feel betrayed. No matter how much you think about it, it's already happened, and it's too far gone to turn back. It's not something you can fix, so it's best to stop looking for it. So what should you do when you've been betrayed? Ironically, the best thing to do when you've been betrayed is to play it cool and let the person off th

There are times when you find yourself in a life sage time. You feel like no matter what you do, things start to go wrong, and everyone around you seems to be doing well, but you're stuck in a maze. What do you do when life doesn't seem to have an answer? What do you do when you feel like your luck is worse than it used to be? If you're in a sage time of your life, the first thing you should do is move. You need to go places you wouldn't normally go and do things you wouldn't normally do to get out of the maze. It could be visiting a luxury store for the first time, playing a game at a PC shop you've never been to before, or buying something you thought you'd never buy. Doing something that makes you feel good will recharge your batteries and stimulate your mind with new things. Even if the problem you're facing hasn't gone away, you might be able to untangle the threads in your brain and find a new way to approach it. Trying new things is the first

There's a phrase that many people say. "If only I had more time, I could have done a better job, or I would have tried just a little harder." Are you guilty of saying this too? We often think that we didn't accomplish what we wanted to because we didn't have enough time, or because our circumstances weren't favorable. If only all the circumstances were better, we'd have better results and better outcomes. Then I want to ask you again, if that's the case, why don't you spend enough time doing what you need to do to be more successful? Why haven't you done it? You can make excuses for this too, but they're really just that, excuses. The answer is because you didn't want it bad enough. You have to let go of wishful thinking. The same mentality of "if only I had more time, I could work out" is wishful thinking. There is never time to spare, and that time is just another way of saying you don't want to do it. And the things tha

When you work at a company, you meet a lot of different people. But there's one person in particular that everyone seems to dislike: someone who speaks aggressively or negatively about your opinions. Their personality is so aggressive that you can't help but wonder if they actually think you're the enemy. Naturally, you don't want to talk to this type of person and try to avoid them as much as possible. However, these people are often better for your career than having yes men around. If you think about it, they're a good stimulus, just like the concept of red team blue team in management theory. Enemies can be stimulating and teachable, but they can also be truthful with their own solid logic, or they can try to take away what you've accomplished. If you use them to your advantage, you can really grow faster than anyone else. Think back to high school and how you used to try harder because you thought you were a rival. If you only keep good people around you, y

What makes a weekend well spent? For many of us, it's a time to catch up with friends, read a good book, or binge-watch our favorite shows. Sometimes, unproductive rest can have a detrimental effect on us.   The harmful effects of unproductive rest on the body   It's important for us to recognize that not all forms of rest are the same. Staying in bed in your pajamas all day is not true rest - it's more like waking up after noon, eating a meal, and then sleeping in bed without moving. Our holidays When we wake up to start the day on a holiday, it's already late afternoon or early evening. This habit breaks our daily rhythm and can even be harmful to our bodies. If you're an office worker, it can be embarrassing to wake up on Monday feeling groggy and out of sorts after a weekend of late nights. If you've ever felt generally depressed on a Monday, it's likely because you had a less-than-ideal weekend. 1. Avoid an irregular routine. Even if you have a day off,

A year and a half has passed. How many of you can confidently say that this year was different from last year? When you think about it, every day was the same, and nothing much changed. All too often, no matter how old you are, you look back and realize that you haven't done anything. This can make life feel very empty and demotivating. How can you get rid of this feeling? If you feel like your life is passing you by without doing anything right, there's a mindset you need. Consciously decide to do something today that will make you feel good about yourself. It could be taking up a new hobby, or organizing your room. The important thing is that you choose one thing to do today that will make you feel good about yourself and stick to it. And write a line in your calendar every day about how you did it. The truth is that life doesn't change much, so we get used to the lack of novelty. The moment we recognize the tedious repetition of the things we have to do, and the moment w

Take a look at your remote control. How many of the features on it do you actually use? Chances are, the features you actually use on your remote are power, volume, channel, and external input switching. On paper, it sounds great to have a remote that does everything, but in practice, the more features you have, the less intuitive it is to use. Keeping things complicated doesn't provide convenience. No matter how good a feature is, if it's hard to use, it won't be used. This is an immutable truth. Steve Jobs revolutionized smartphones by making them simple to use with tons of features. It's not about adding a lot of features. It's all about how easy it is to use. In other words, you survive by subtracting rather than adding. This is a concept that can be applied to everyday life as well. What you really need to do is obsess over what not to do, not what to do. Pay attention to the value of subtraction rather than the value of addition. It's easy to add, but it&#

To create new innovations, you need to access the essence. It's usually about looking at something familiar from a different perspective, and it takes practice to get good at it. In the planning team of a large company, they have an exercise where they look up the etymology of a word before they start planning for something. Some might think this is a waste of time, but it's a way to get to the essence. For example, how would you talk about the difference between planning and scheming? If you look at the kanji for planning, there are people involved. But planning doesn't have a person. The idea is that planning is something people do, and planning is something people don't do. If we approach these familiar words carefully, we can find new facts that we didn't know before. Insights don't come to those who ignore them because they seem simple. Think of it this way: something that seems simple to you now is thousands of pieces of knowledge that have been distilled,

Do you tend to thank others for their help, even when things don't go well? If you're good at thanking people, have you ever thanked yourself for a job well done? More people than you might think are happy and grateful only when they get the results they were aiming for. If it didn't go as well as they thought it would, they just move on. But whatever you do, you should start with gratitude and end with gratitude, regardless of the outcome. Even if it's a miserable outcome, even if it's a disappointing outcome, you put in the time and other people put in the time. You deserve to be thanked for your hard work. Not only to the people you worked with, but also to yourself for taking on the challenge and deciding to do it. That way, you're more likely to do better next time. It's always disappointing when something doesn't turn out the way you wanted it to. But the older we get, the more we realize that things don't always go our way. A lot of things dep